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Episode #136 - Finding Your FOUNDation

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Episode #136 - "Finding Your FOUNDation" 


Which kind of home would you want to live in: one built on a weak foundation, or one built on a strong one? Seems like a silly question. After all, what sane person would want to live in a house built on a poor foundation (that is, unless you’re a little pig thinking you’re safe from the big bad wolf)? Just as a solid foundation is needed in order to build a solid structure, so we need to build our spiritual lives on a spiritually solid foundation.

Welcome to the Point of Purity Podcast! I’m your host Steve Etner – author, National Speaker, Certified Professional Mentor TM and Purity Coach for The Pure Man Ministry and this is Episode #136. In this episode we continue our journey through my book entitled “Are You a Super Man of God? Becoming God’s Man of Steel”. This week’s episode is entitled “Finding your FOUNDation.”


Pause for a moment and think about the house (or apartment) where you currently live. If you were asked to describe it, what would you say? You might decide to talk about its location, the size of the lot it sits on and the kind of neighborhood it’s in. More than likely, you’d mention the number of bedrooms and bathrooms it has, possibly even its color, design, and square footage. But you probably wouldn’t talk about its foundation. Truth be told, the likelihood of that even crossing your mind is slim to none. And yet, it is the foundation of your home that makes all the difference in the world.

When a home is being built, it’s wise to start with a foundation. That only makes sense, right? After all, what happens to the structure if you build upon a weak foundation, or choose not to have one at all? Do you remember the children’s story of the Three Little Pigs? Two of them chose to build their homes out of straw and sticks. Oh, they were wonderful to look at (if you’re a pig, that is). They even remained standing for a brief period of time. However, as soon as a strong wind came along—WHAM! Down they went.

The truth is life can be hard. If you expect to stay standing in the midst of the storms of life that constantly bombard you on every front, you need to be planted firmly on a foundation that will not fail—one that runs deep into solid rock.

Let’s dream for a moment. What would it be like to live the rest of your life built on a solid foundation that will never shake, rattle, or roll? Wouldn’t you love to live your life secure in the knowledge that absolutely no storm, no matter how intense, could ever destroy you? I know I can’t put words in your mouth, but I’m going to assume your answer is a loud and boisterous “Yes!” Am I right?

Gentlemen, I challenge you—don’t ever lose sight of the fact that as a Christian man, the most important thing you could ever do is know God deeply and live in a way that always brings honor and glory to Him. In order to live that kind of life—even in the worst of storms—you must build that life into a solid, spiritual foundation, God’s foundation.

Before ever going high, you must first go deep.

You see, when you build your life deep into God’s foundation, that life is guaranteed to stand firm at all times. 2 Timothy 2:19 tells us that “God’s truth stands firm like a foundation stone with this inscription: ‘The LORD knows those who are his.’” That doesn’t mean you won’t have storms in life. (Wouldn’t that be nice?) However, it does mean that when you build your life upon a growing relationship with God, those storms will never take you down—that is His promise. In Isaiah 28:16 “This is what the Sovereign LORD says: ‘Look! I am placing a foundation stone ..., a firm and tested stone. It is a precious cornerstone that is safe to build on. Whoever believes need never be shaken.’” That is a promise you can take to the bank of Heaven, the safest, most secure bank in the entire universe (Matthew 6:19-20).

The question, then, is this: What is the foundation we should be building our godly lives upon, and how do we start building on it? The answer is both simple and complex. You see, you don’t have to try to lay this foundation (insert big sigh of relief here). The foundation has already been laid in the person of Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians 3:11). The real question is, what are you doing this very moment to build your relationship with Christ?

Listen as I quote these words and let their truth sink deep into your soul.

My hope is built on nothing less Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness; I dare not trust the sweetest frame, But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.

Refrain: “On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand; All other ground is sinking sand, All other ground is sinking sand. "

When darkness veils His lovely face, I rest on His unchanging grace; In every high and stormy gale, My anchor holds within the veil. His oath, His covenant, His blood Support me in the whelming flood; When all around my soul gives way, He then is all my hope and stay.

Refrain: “On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand; All other ground is sinking sand, All other ground is sinking sand.

OK – I want to take an important pause here as ask you some key questions I’d like you to consider:

  • What is the purpose of a house?
  • How do you feel knowing your house is built on a solid foundation? Why?
  • Which kind of spiritual life do you want to live: one that is built on a weak foundation, or one built on a strong one? Why?
  • What are you doing right now to build your life on a strong, spiritually solid foundation?

During my grandfather’s generation, when building a home, the very first stone laid in the foundation was always strategically placed in the corner of the structure (probably why they ingeniously called it the cornerstone). It was the most important part of the entire building. That one stone determined the position of all the stones to be laid afterward. In fact, the placement of that stone determined the setting of the entire structure. If the cornerstone wasn’t placed just right, the entire building would be permanently off of true.

What is the cornerstone of your life? Is it the stone of pleasure? How about the stone of success or the stone of happiness? Maybe it’s the stone of fortune or popularity. Whatever that stone may be, it is truly the most important stone in the structure known simply as your life. It determines the direction your life is going to take. So carefully consider this next point: if you choose to build your life around any stone other than Christ, your structure (your life) will be “off true”—guaranteed.

In Scripture Jesus is called the Chief Cornerstone (Ephesians 2:20). King David wrote, “The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?” (Psalm 27:1). He also said, “The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble” (Psalm 9:9). David is saying that Jesus Christ is your place of safety and refuge in the times of trouble; He is your rock that will keep you secure. In fact, He IS the only foundation you will ever need. Build your life upon Him and you are guaranteed to stand no matter what storm tries to take you down. Keeping with our current theme of being a Super Man of God – God’s Man of Steel, I submit that a growing relationship with Jesus Christ is your Fortress of Solitude!

Did you know that the best way to discover who Jesus is and how to get to know Him is to open your Bible and study the pages of God’s Word? Seriously! In fact, I challenge you to take a moment right now (if you can) and pick up your Bible—hold it in your hand and look at it. Open the pages and glance at the words.

How do you feel about your Bible? (No, this is not a trick question, so answer honestly.) How do you truly feel about it? Is it just a book that sits on a shelf or on your coffee table during the week, only to be picked up and opened briefly on Sundays during the morning message? Is it a book you open each morning as you read the three verses your daily devotional guide requires while having a cup of coffee and bagel (or if you’re like me, a glass of milk and chocolate chip cookies)? Or do you cry out with David, “Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long”? (Psalm 119:97). Is your delight “in the law of the LORD” and on that law do you “meditate day and night”? (Psalm 1:2).

Why is that so important? Why is it critical that I love my Bible? Isn’t it enough that I occasionally read it? Take a few moments here and think about the amazing love letter God has written to you called The Bible. In fact, as I share with you these next points, pick up your Bible once again and hold it in your hand. I know, sounds a bit weird, but try it. Now consider this:

  • God’s Word is living, active, sharper than any double-edged sword. Every time you read it, study it, memorize it and meditate on it, Scripture pushes aside all the junk and fluff in life and gets right to the heart of the matter. (Hebrews 4:12)
  • The Bible IS the very word of God. It is quite literally God speaking to you, teaching you deep and wonderful truths about Himself and Heaven and how He wants you to live. It rebukes us when we do wrong. It shows us how to make it right and trains us in how to live consistently godly lives. (2 Timothy 3:16-17)
  • It brings blessing to those who hear it and obey its commands. (Luke 11:28)
  • Because God is true, God’s Word is also true—there is no error in it, (Psalm 18:30) and therefore it will never lead us down a wrong path. (Psalm 119:105)
  • It was written to provide us with godly instruction on how to live in a way that honors our Heavenly Father, providing us with great hope. (Romans 15:4)
  • It helps us become spiritually prosperous and genuinely successful. (Joshua 1:8)
  • It always draws us to God, and it is reliable, trustworthy, and full of wisdom; when we read it and obey its commands, it brings great joy to our souls and will never lead us astray. (Psalm 19:7-9)
  • It helps us grow in our walk with God. (1 Peter 2:2)
  • It stands forever and will never pass away. (Isaiah 40:8)
  • It is to be kept diligently, (Psalm 119:4) it will help us keep our life pure, (Psalm 119:9) it teaches us good judgment, (Psalm 119:66) it makes us wiser than our enemies, (Psalm 119:98) gives us more understanding than the smartest teacher or the elderly, (Psalm 119:99) and guides our every step in life. (Psalm 119:105, 130)

That’s just a partial list! I could take up multiple episodes with statements on the value of Scripture and the joys of growing in our relationship with God. Here’s what I want you to understand: We have been given a sure and solid foundation! This is what we must build a godly life upon if we expect to stand firm in the storms of life.

OK. Let’s hit the pause button until next week’s episode as we continue our journey through my book “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” If you would like to learn more about today’s study, or if you’re interested in learning more about The Pure Man Ministry, be sure to visit our website to see the multitude of resources we’ve made available to you – you can find our website at

Let me take just a moment here to explain to you this book I’ve written (in which we are taking a deep-dive into in this podcast) entitled “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” It’s available on

This book is a 12-week men’s Bible study that is a fun look at what it means to be God’s Man of Steel in a world that is Anti-God, Anti-Christ, and Anti-Bible. In this book “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel” we discover that just as the fictional character known as “Superman” draws his physical strength from his close proximity to earth’s yellow sun, you and I as spiritually Super Men of God find our strength, our ability to effectively live a life that honors and glorifies God, that strength comes directly from our close proximity to God’s SON. The closer you are in relationship to Jesus Christ, the greater your power to resist the archenemy of your soul (the devil) and watch him flee from you (James 4:7).

Yet, truth-be-told, again – just like “Superman” has a weakness known as “Kryptonite” - you and I also have a weakness. It’s our spiritual Kryptonite. It’s that radioactive element of your life before Christ that your spiritual archenemy uses to his advantage. The fact is, when you play around with your Kryptonite, it weakens your will and ability to stand firm and fight the fight of faith.

In this 12-week men’s Bible study you will learn how to identify your Kryptonite, steer clear of it, find your super-spiritual strength as you daily draw closer to the SON, and be the man of steel God has called and equipped you to be. So, let me encourage you to go to today and purchase your copy of “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.”

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So, until next time this is Author, Speaker, Certified Professional Mentor TM and Purity Coach Steve Etner reminding you that if you are going to glorify God in your everyday living, He must first be glorified in your every moment thinking.

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