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Episode #145 - Deception, Decision, Destruction

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Episode #145 - "Deception-Decision-Destruction"   


It’s important that we deal with our broken cisterns, our FROGS, our Kryptonite. Those habitual sins won’t provide you with what you’re looking for. They may promise you happiness, they may try to guarantee you pleasure, they may tell you that they can offer everything you could ever want in life—but they’re broken. They won’t give you what you need, simply because they cannot. Only Jesus is the answer.

Welcome to the Point of Purity Podcast! I’m your host Steve Etner – author, National Speaker, Certified Professional Mentor TM and Purity Coach for The Pure Man Ministry and this is Episode #145. In this episode we continue our journey through chapter 6 of my book entitled “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” This week’s episode is entitled “Deception-Decision-Destruction.”

I’d like to begin this week’s episode by reading to you a short story from Chapter 6 of my book “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” And I quote:

“Dave was an awesome guy. He had everything going for him. He was at the top of his game. President of a growing company that was really going places; people who not only worked for him, but deeply respected him; a portfolio to die for—he had it all. From his top-floor corner office he could look out on all he had built. He was proud of what he had accomplished, proud of all his employees had done, and proud of his little kingdom.

“One day as he was standing at his desk, observing the goings and comings of the people he employed, his assistant, Beth, stepped into the office. ‘Davey,’ she said. The quiver in her voice made him spin around to look at her. Tears welled up in her eyes. Rushing over to her, he helped her sit down. ‘What’s wrong, Beth?’

“With her head bowed, staring at her fingers she answered, ‘I’m pregnant. And before you say anything—it’s yours, I’m certain.’ Her announcement hit the floor like a 10-megaton bomb. Dave’s heart stopped for a moment, then permanently lodged in his throat. He quickly glanced out the window into the open area beyond his office, wondering if any of his employees heard.

“’I haven’t said anything to Ryan yet. Oh, Davey, what are we going to do?’ Ryan was Beth’s husband and one of Dave’s top salesmen. The young couple had been married nearly three years. Unfortunately, Ryan wasn’t able to make it to the company Christmas party last month, so Dave took it upon himself to make sure Beth enjoyed the evening. Instead of going home as he had originally intended, Dave hung around to help Beth clean up after the party was over. One thing led to another and, well, here they were in a horrible predicament.

“Panic seized Dave’s chest like an iron fist. What were they going to do? This was a mess—a big mess. No, this wasn’t just a mess, it was a catastrophe. This could ruin him in a heartbeat. Everything he had worked so hard to build suddenly felt like a house of cards, ready to collapse around him at the slightest breath.

“Ryan was the problem here, Davey was certain. Somehow, he had to get the husband out of the picture so he could take care of Beth properly. But how? Suddenly he had an idea, an absolutely, horrifically good idea: an accident. He would arrange for Ryan to be involved in some type of fatal accident. Once Ryan was out of the picture, Dave would swoop in as the hero, taking Beth as his wife so he could care for the grieving widow and the baby she and Ryan were expecting.” End of quote

Does the story sound familiar? Change the environment a bit and you have the account of 2 Samuel 11. It’s the miserable story of David, Bathsheba, and Uriah. Why did David do such horrible things? What was he thinking? Actually, that is a very important question to consider. What was he thinking?

I once heard someone say, “You can choose your actions, but you cannot choose the consequences.” True statement. Just look at the choices David made.

  1. He chose to stay home from the war instead of doing his duty as king and leading his men into battle.
  2. He chose to look at Bathsheba bathing instead of turning around and walking away the moment he saw her naked.
  3. He chose to have sex with a married woman instead of honoring the sanctity of marriage that God had established.
  4. He chose to lie and deceive by bribing Uriah, encouraging him to sleep with his wife.
  5. He then chose to murder Uriah instead of obeying the eighth commandment (Exodus 20:13).

Every bad choice he made just led to another bad choice, and then another, followed by another. Every bad choice led to very bad consequences. Yes, you can choose your actions. Yes, there are consequences to those actions. However, I want you to think about this: You CAN choose your consequences! “But wait a minute, Steve! I thought you just said I can’t choose the consequences—make up your mind!” Let me explain what I mean. You can indeed choose your consequences—by choosing your actions. So, let me ask you – what choices are you making, and what will be the consequences?

God tells Cain, in Genesis 4:7, that if he wants God’s blessing in his life, he needed to choose to do what is right (what is honoring and glorifying to God). However, if he chooses to not worship God – but rather worship King Me, then the consequences would be sinful behavior that would eventually consume him. Choices = Consequences.

Now let me introduce you to another man – a fictitious character from Chapter 6 of my book “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” His name is Jerry. And I quote:

“Jerry paused briefly to wipe the sweat from his forehead. Checking his watch, he realized he’d been digging for over seven hours. Thrusting the worn shovel into the ground, he stepped back to look at his handiwork. Not bad, even if he said so himself. Seven hours of back-breaking work and he had a hole about six feet wide and almost four feet deep. Not nearly deep enough, but still a good day’s work considering all the stone he had to move. Grabbing the shovel once again, he heard the sound of someone clearing his throat.

“Glancing up, he saw the silhouette of his friend, Eric, standing at the edge of the hole looking down at him. ‘Jerry, what are you doing?’ asked Eric. ‘I’m digging a cistern!’ Jerry matter-of-factly replied. ‘A what?’ Smiling up at Eric he repeated, ‘A cistern. It’s an in-ground container for water.’

“’I know what a cistern is, Jerry. I just don’t understand why you’re digging it.’

“’Oh, that’s simple! The cistern I dug three weeks ago has gotten a number of cracks in it already, so it’s not holding the water anymore.’ Jerry turned back to the task at hand and begun to dig once again.

“’My question still stands, bro. Why are you digging a cistern?’ Leaning against the shovel handle, Jerry sighed. ‘Because I need to hold on to the water so we can drink!’

“Tossing his hands up in the air, Eric retorted, ‘Dude! Why don’t you just drink from the fresh water gushing out of this huge fountain sitting right here?’” End of quote.

If you listened to that short story and concluded that Jerry is a foolish man, you would be right. But before we slam down the gavel and pass judgment on him, understand this: we are just as guilty.

God has given to us the fountain of living water, Jesus Christ Himself (John 4:14). We have an endless supply of everything we need in Christ. And yet we dig out cisterns that are broken, unable to hold any water. Furthermore, any water they could hold is stagnant and putrid. We create gods (our precious FROGS – if you listened to last week’s episode) that “have mouths, but cannot speak, eyes, but they cannot see; they have ears, but cannot hear, noses, but they cannot smell; they have hands, but cannot feel, feet, but they cannot walk; nor can they utter a sound with their throats” (Psalm 115:4-8).

Guys, it’s important that we deal with our broken cisterns, our FROGS, our Kryptonite. Those habitual sins won’t provide you with what you’re looking for. They may promise you happiness, they may try to guarantee you pleasure, they may tell you that they hold everything you could ever want in life—but they’re broken. They won’t give you what you need, simply because they cannot. Only Jesus is the answer.

If we are going to live in victory and freedom, if we’re going to live daily as Super Men of God, it’s critical to know exactly what our Kryptonite is doing to us and how we can counter its affects. Why do we respond the way we do when we’re around it? Why does it weaken our ability to resist? There is actually a chain reaction of seven things that happen, one right after the other, every time we get near our Kryptonite.

#1: It all begins when we are lured by a particular temptation that is especially appealing to us. Somewhere deep inside there is an attraction to it—a lust. This is the most critical piece to the puzzle. Identify and deal with this, and you will avoid the other six steps and be free from the damaging effects of your Kryptonite. The bottom line here is not to give the enemy any ground to stand on (Ephesians 4:27).

#2: When we give in to the pull of temptation, we will initially try to resist—after all, that’s what a good Christian guy does, right? Resist the temptation! But that attempt is pathetically insufficient at best. Why? Because we secretly want to experience the pleasure that temptation promises us. Again, if you attack this right here and now you will avoid the trap being set for you. But if your desires and thoughts are not dealt with God’s way (2 Corinthians 10:5), that temptation will grow in strength and become much harder to fight.

#3: Because the temptation to give in is growing, our minds begin to come up with excuses as to why it’s okay for us to go ahead and sin ... this time. We even get to the point where we start validating our choice to give up and give in. Our spiritual vision has been impaired. We are now struggling with “me-opia,” seeing things from the perspective of self and how it will benefit King Me. So, let me meddle here. Let me get into your personal space for a moment and ask you: What are the excuses you tend to give to validate your choice to sin? And, What’s wrong with those excuses?

#4: By now our thoughts are almost completely focused on getting the promised pleasure. We begin to truly believe that “I need this. I have to have this. I must do this.” And we also battle with feelings of defeat and helplessness— “I just can’t get victory over this thing!” At this point, God is no longer in our thought process, or if He is, we have Him pigeonholed into either the box of “He’ll understand and forgive me,” or “He’s given up on me and I’m on my own.” So, consider this: Why do we push God out of the way?

#5: At this point we act out our temptation. We give in and we sin (James 1:15).

#6: Immediately on the heels of that decision come two totally different emotions, almost simultaneously. First, we have the payoff, that brief but powerful moment of temporary pleasure or sense of relief (Hebrews 11:25). We experience the “reward” of giving in. But tugging on the shirttails of that feeling is one of shame and guilt.

And #7: To soothe those overwhelming feelings of guilt, we cry out to God and “confess” our sin to Him. Too often, though, the act of confession is done mostly out of duty and a desire to feel better about ourselves, instead of one of true repentance.

Watch this now: we need to break free from this cycle. We need to live each day of our lives in the knowledge that we don’t have to give in to our FROGS. We don’t have to surrender to our Kryptonite. We don’t have to sin! Romans 6:14 declares that “sin will have no dominion over you since you are not under law but under grace.”

God has given you everything you need to be victorious. Only through God’s strength can you win (Philippians 4:13). Only through His Divine power are you able to say “no” to sin and live a life free from your Kryptonite (2 Peter 1:3).

OK. Let’s hit the pause button until next week’s episode as we continue our journey through my book “Are You a Super Man? Becoming God’s Man of Steel.” If you would like to learn more about today’s study, or if you’re interested in learning more about The Pure Man Ministry, be sure to visit our website to see the multitude of resources we’ve made available to you – you can find our website at ".

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